“We Both Matter”

We Both Matter helps siblings explore big feelings like jealousy, frustration, and the need for attention. Through a playful puppy story, children learn that love doesn’t run out, fairness doesn’t always look equal, and both siblings are important and valued.

A gentle song that helps siblings learn sharing, empathy, and feeling equally loved.

15 PRACTICAL, PSYCHOLOGY-BASED TIPS FOR PARENTS & SIBLINGS

(Clear, actionable, family-therapy informed)

1. Normalize sibling jealousy
Jealousy doesn’t mean a child is ungrateful or “bad.” It means they want connection.

2. Avoid comparisons
Never compare behaviors, emotions, or achievements.

3. Use “both/and” language
“You’re upset AND your sibling is upset too.”

4. Teach the difference between fair and equal
Fair means needs are met, not everything is identical.

5. Name feelings out loud
“I see you feel left out.”

6. Give individual attention regularly
Short, predictable one-on-one moments reduce rivalry.

7. Avoid forcing sharing immediately
Support emotional readiness before expecting sharing.

8. Model repair after conflict
Show how to apologize, reconnect, and move on.

9. Encourage teamwork activities
Choose games where siblings work together, not against each other.

10. Validate both sides during conflict
Listening doesn’t mean agreeing.

11. Avoid labeling one child
No “the easy one” or “the difficult one.”

12. Teach turn-taking visually
Timers, songs, or slime play make waiting easier.

13. Let siblings solve small conflicts
Step in only when safety or emotions escalate.

14. Praise cooperation, not competition
“I noticed you helped each other.”

15. Reinforce the core message daily
“There is enough love for both of you.”

THERAPEUTIC STRATEGY

Sibling Relationship Support using Attachment-Based Parenting, Emotion-Focused Therapy (EFT), and Social–Emotional Learning (SEL)

This approach supports:

  • Reduced rivalry
  • Emotional security
  • Empathy and cooperation
  • Stronger sibling bonds

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